Daily Devotional for Thursday December 11, 2014
(Genesis 2:15, 3:19; Proverbs 13:4; Genesis 1:27; Galatians 3:28)
***ASK BILL: Pastor Bill, after a recent disagreement, I was told by my spouse that he could go anywhere he wants, whenever he wants, see whoever he wants, stay as long as he wants, and make any decisions he wants without consulting me. Don't spouses owe each other that type of consideration and communication?
ANSWER: That is not a spouse, it is a dictator, and it is certainly NOT the way God designed marriage. A husband and wife are 100% equal, with different roles to play. Those who want to disregard the Bible point to passages about a wife being obedient. What they fail to mention, is that on the other side, the man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. MARRIAGE IS A MUTUAL RELATIONSHIP OF LOVE, PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING, NURTURING, BASED ON A SHARED FAITH IN CHRIST!
Gender division is simply the latest ploy used by those seeking to fulfill their own selfish personal or political goals! Division of any kind, the color of your skin, the amount of your bank account, or anything else man uses to pit one group of people against another is right from the playbook of satan and has been used since the Garden of Eden. The first murder occurred as Cain killed his brother out of jealousy! Sadly today, men and women are being divided simply by virtue of their gender.
It is NOT an accident that you have a major publication like the Rolling Stone magazine committing gross journalistic malpractice with their recent story of a woman claiming she was gang raped at a University of Virginia frat party which they have now said really didn't happen. Actress Lena Dunham had a book published by Random House, a major book publisher, where she spoke of being raped in college by a "Republican." It now turns out the person she claimed to be her rapist really wasn't. Add to these examples the mythical "war on women" by one of the two major political parties, and you can see that there are people who for personal and/or political gain are purposely trying to divide men and woman.
This has been made possible largely due to the blurring of the Biblical roles of men and women over the last 50 years, until today those roles have all but been obliterated. In the rebellion that emerged in the 60s, God's defined roles for men and women became a huge target by radical groups of women. Just recently, a study was released that 41% of the primary breadwinners are now women. Of course, the secular media cheered this report, but was there really something to cheer about? In context, just 50 years ago, one generation, that percentage of women who were the primary breadwinner was just 11%. I submit to you today this study proves what I have been saying for years and is not something to celebrate, but lament!!!
I have no doubt that this will be one of the more unpopular Devotionals I have ever written, but it is a message that is long overdue. I am always amused at the feminists and liberal theologians that state the Bible is anti-woman and that Paul was a male chauvinist. Nobody who understands God's Word would make such a foolish claim since nothing could be further from the truth. The Bible is very much PRO woman and clearly teaches that God made men and women 100% equal with separate roles to play. Paul, in teaching equality between men and women, was a pioneer for women's rights in a day when women were viewed as little more than property. One of the roles God has called men to play is that of a leader, a role many men have failed to live up to.
Out of the rebellion in the '60s came the women's movement. Satan is a liar, and the lie he told to women was that they needed to be equal with men. But if you read and study God's Word, the TRUTH, you realize that according to God a woman is already equal to a man. Men and women are 100% equal, they simply have different roles to play. Sadly, women bought this lie and for what little strides there may have been in regard to women getting a few more dollars for their work, the long-term consequences have been disastrous for women, men, children, and society as a whole.
Two generations later the results are men and women living totally outside of the roles God intended for them to have, neither really being sure any longer what those roles even are. Let me be so bold to say that we now have the largest percentage of 2 generations of men who are spineless, gutless, confused, and lost. They fail to lead in their marriage. They fail to lead in their homes. They fail to lead in their careers. They are not the leaders God has called them to be, simply followers. Worst of all, they are not the priests of their homes, having failed in this most important role God has called them to play.
To fill the void left by men failing to perform their God-ordained roles, women have had to take on roles God never intended them to have. One of those roles is a woman working outside of the home to provide for the family. The lie of the world is that women have to go out and work. The sad reality in the year 2014 is that many men expect their wives to work and earn a certain amount of money. Let me break this down for you men, YOU, NOT YOUR WIFE, ARE SUPPOSED TO SUPPORT YOUR FAMILY!
This is not demeaning women or their abilities in any way. It is not a matter of if a woman can do the same job as a man, but the fact God never intended for them to do the same job as a man! God gave a woman the most important job of all and that is raising your children in the admonition of the Lord. No matter what else you may do in your life, that is the number one job and ministry a woman will ever have!!!
Listen, I am well aware of the argument that both spouses have to work. The reality is, economics have not changed since the days not that long ago when most women did not work. It is our desires for the things of this world that have changed. God's plan is for men to work and support their family and women to raise the children with the help and support of their husbands. If you don't have children, there is nothing wrong with working, but the husband is still supposed to be the primary source of support in the home. Obviously, single moms, single women, and those whose husbands are unable to work, are in special situations where you have no other choice but to work. Know that God will give you the favor, strength, and ability to provide for your family.
Women, let me give you a quick word of counsel. This is why I share so often that marriage is not something to enter into lightly. Please don't rush into marriage! It is a lifetime commitment. Heed God's warning about being unequally yoked. Take the time to build a spiritual foundation together. Make sure that the man you are praying about spending the rest of your life with, is a man of God who is following God's Word and willing to perform the roles God has called him to play. Like I say so often, our way doesn't work and only brings consequences, God's way works and brings blessings.
The encouraging thing is every day I get prayer requests from husbands and wives who are restructuring their lives and finances so that the wife can stay at home with the children. There has been a big move in this direction the past few years as women are going back to their natural, God-given roles of being a mother and wife above everything else. This is also forcing men to perform their God-given role as the provider for their family. For you parents out there praying about doing this, let me encourage you that God will give you the wisdom and favor to restructure your lives and finances so that you can stay home with your children. God will always honor us and help us to follow His plan for our lives.
I love you and care about you so much. I am praying today, especially for the men out there that this will be a wake up call that God has called you to be a leader. You do not have the option of passing on this role God has called you to play if you want to be the man He has raised you up to be. God has called you to protect and provide for your family. God has called you to be the priest of your home and be the spiritual leader of your wife and children. I pray, today, that you will take these roles seriously and ask God to help you fulfill them to the best of your ability.
The biggest problem we have in our world today is the breakdown of the family. It is God's foundation for society. When the family works, society works. When the family breaks down, society breaks down. We can see clearly that the breakdown of our culture in 2014 can be directly tied to the breakdown of the family. Women have bought into a lie from hell and men have failed to be the leaders God has called them to be!
In His love and service, Your friend and brother in Christ,